To be successful in today’s society, Community is the key. To create and to maintain a strong community, one must watch out for certain pitfalls. I will attempt to convey some of the pitfalls to avoid and some keys to maintain a strong community.
The other day while going through some older notes that I had taken at a LIFE Leadership Convention, I came across a page that I titled “15 Things that Shred Teams” that was based on a talk that LIFE Founder Orrin Woodward had given on building Compensated Communities. [Orrin is #6 on the list of world ranked Leadership Gurus, has written many best-selling books, and was awarded by the IAB with the #1 Leadership award last year!! Definitely the kind of guy to get leadership information from…]. I hadn’t looked over those notes for a while and thought that they were a very helpful reminder in not only Compensated Communities, but ANY type of community, whether it be a church, work, social group, military, political, or even in your own home. First I will go over the 15 things that Orrin says will shred a community and then I will cover the things to combat those areas to maintain a strong community, based on other information that I have accumulated over the years.
- Self-Pity – Someone who has self pity lowers morale for a group.
- Temper – People don’t like to be around someone with an unpredictable attitude. Always feels like walking on egg shells.
- Resentment – Disappointed, doesn’t like change.
- Jealousy/Envy – Can’t be happy for other’s achievements.
- Pride – Someone who thinks they know it all. (all that and a bag of chips, as the saying goes)
- Selfishness – Win/No Win in human relations. Not concerned about he well-being of the other parties involved in the proposal.
- Fear – Accumulates over time. Disables people mentally.
- Blaming – No responsibility.
- Greed – Concerned only of themselves and their personal state of affairs.
- Groan – Constantly complaining. Sucks life out of a conversation or a room for that matter.
- Hate – Turns into poison. Sours the heart and builds walls.
- Cheat – Lack of integrity. Cuts corners.
- Cursing – Foul mouth. Detracts from leadership or following.
- Criticism – Finding fault in others.
- Doubt – Second guesses goals or dreams. Limits themselves.
These things can turn any relationship or community sour if they are not confronted soon enough. The following is just a list of things that I believe combat these things, based on my notes from other leadership talks:
- Grateful – Be grateful for what you have, because you have been blessed beyond measure!
- Smile – Someone can’t be angry and have a temper for long with a smile on their face. Another thing that can help here is positive input. (motivational/leadership cds, books, or other positive association) “What goes in, must come out”
- Acknowledgement – Realize there is a problem and that you are in control of the actions of the outcome. Then get your heart in the right place.
- Edify – Congratulate others achievements in front of them and behind their backs. (the only time gossip is ok.) Realize that you can get where they are if you just do what they did.
- Humility – Be humble and know that there is a lot more to learn. There is always room for improvement. I believe there was only 1 Perfect human.
- Generous – Win/Win or no deal. Become a giver. Do what we know we should do but so few do.
- Courage/Action – Step out against your fears because they are really only “false evidence appearing real”
- Responsibility – Take personal responsibility for a situation. Once you take responsibility you can fix the problem. If you pass the buck you are basically giving up control. As the saying goes when you point your finger at someone there are 4 pointing back at you.
- Giving – Give more and again get your heart where it should be.
- Thankful – Give thanks for what you have. It could be a lot worse. If everyone threw their problems into a bucket and picked someone elses they would likely ask for theirs back soon.
- Love – Be a compassionate, merciful person. That is what we were created to do. Love is not a noun, it’s something that we DO.
- Character – Have integrity. Don’t cut corners. Develop yourself.
- Uplifting – Don’t say bad stuff about things or other people. Uplift them. Encourage.
- Self-Seek – Search yourself for faults. There is always room for improvement. A relative of mine once said, “Don’t worry about your neighbors stoop, when there is snow on your own.”
- Believe – Have faith that things will work out. When you start believing, truly believing, that you will achieve something, your mind will start taking the correct steps to get you to whatever you are chasing down.
I, myself am constantly working on these areas and will continue to, because there really is always room for improvement. I am on a leadership journey with the LIFE Community, and all of the materials offered through the LIFE Business helps a person fix the chosen areas that he/she wants to improve on in the 8 F’s of LIFE: Faith, Family, Friends, Fitness, Finance, Following, Freedom, and Fun. I pray that you are able to take something from this post and begin applying in your own life.